Am I at this stage?

[TrentC]

Wow. Love that! That is so true. Its genius. Instant gratification! That is what I live for! Definitely a change that I have to make. Again let go of expectations and be okay with the outcome...."breath"...sometimes I don't do that. You're right he has given me something. I wouldn't have believed I would be where I'm at today a week ago. We ARE communicating through the phone which is such a huge step, and you're right again, Trent. I need to be happy with where I am at. And continue to take it day by day.

It is the only way to stay sane. Another way is to have something to dump these crazy conflicted emotions onto to get them out. I suggested a journal earlier; you can use my alt email address if you want to have actual feedback.

I forgot to mention that my MC told me today in the session that my H has made an appointment for next monday. He hasn't been in to see him since the day he "left". So of course I'm very excited because he is finally ready to open up and work on things and making that effort. MC also told me that his job is to see where H is at and that is the only way he is going to be able to help him. So he told me that whether I talk to H myself or not about where he is at, he definitely will on monday. He says that will probably be his first question.

Your husband's counseling needs to be his own. Let him work this stuff out; you can't help him with this, except in the ways you are already doing it -- by working on yourself.

I'm petrified to know his answer. Ughh bad, I know. But I feel that H will be very open and honest with our MC, even if he hasn't been very open with me. Which he hasn't. Of course I don't expect MC to call me up immediately after the session and give me all the details, but I dunno. Why do I think this way???

Because you haven't quite detached yet.

What your husband tells the MC is only relevant as it pertains to his eventual decision to stay or go. You really cannot obsess over the details of his process.