I wonder about detaching. Is detaching not caring? Is detaching erasing the feelings? That's what it feels like.
No, it isn't. I don't think it has anything to do with feelings.
It is getting comfortable and accepting that if you end up D'd, you will be ok. It is realizing you have no control over that aspect, and letting go of the result. So, you focus on you and improving yourself.
It doesn't mean you won't hurt, miss, be mad, or have resentment at times. But it means despite those feelings, you know you're going to be just fine when the dust settles.
It also involves unhitching your happiness from her's. Not making your happiness depend on whether she is in a good mood or upon something you expect her to do or say.
