What to do when H doesn't contact?

[jon2911]

Sounds harmless enough. Good that he's back on his meds.

What we're trying to tell you here is that needy, clingy behavior is very unattractive. Try to avoid as much as possible. You have to know that you'll be OK without him, when you do he'll be surprised. Try and get off the rollercoaster as much as you can. Work out, force yourself to do fun things.

Don't worry about how much he makes, you've mentioned it quite a bit on here. If this goes through to divorce, it won't matter much. I only say that from experience, my W owns part of a natural gas well and gets quite a lot of money from it. Of course, I'm not entitled to any, even in a community property state, but I thought a lot about it early in my sitch, thinking a judge might be easier on me because I made so much less (at the time). Not going to happen, they just divide the debt 50/50 most of the time. I'm getting ticked just writing about this.

Anyway, hang in there, let us know what happens. Holidays are still a ways away, no need to make any plans that could be seen as pressure.