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[hoosiermama]

well, as great as the Children's Museum is, you probably won't get your money's worth with a 2-year-old's attention span. In a year or two, it will be great. There is, however, a really wonderful zoo here, which is comparable in price and might hold his attention better. You could easily spend the day there. If you're coming on Saturday, there's a great Halloween festival in Irvington (east side of Indy) which is free and extremely kid-friendly.

and I agree--you can't allow him to continue to have things both ways.

[awest1217]

Thanks hoosiermama! My friend just took her 2 year old and she said he loved it. I will wait and see about the weather. I will be going on Friday so that S can "trick or treat" around family houses.

[ClingingToHope]

Too bad you can't travel to Chicago. Shedd Aquarium would take up a day.

[awest1217]

Actually I could go to Shedd. S would love looking at all the fish. That is another idea. I was just thinking although I have lived in IN for 18 years I have never been to Indy to just look around. Thanks for the new ideas!

[ClingingToHope]

I love Chicago. You could also take him to the Navy Pier Children's Museum, which is pretty cool, although also for more like 4 and above.

[Lucky11too]

Have a great time with S this weekend! You definitely deserve some time for fun. Hope S is feeling better too! =)

[awest1217]

Right now H is says he is "sick". Because of everything, I have no reason to believe him. All summer if he did not want to do something he would call and say "I am sick" just for me to find out he spent the time with OW. I don't know if I really believe he is sick or not. He said he wants to go, but does not know if he will be better. Also we were going to go tomorrow, but now he does not want to go until Saturday, which I don't like because more kids will be there on the weekend, but I am trying to encourage him to make decisions so I said I would wait until Saturday, but if he is not feeling well and is going to bail then he needs to tell me by tomorrow night. I am just going to do what I was going to do Saturday tomorrow.

I hope he actually comes through this time. We will see...

[awest1217]

I was thinking today while I was mopping, and for those of you who are christian and believe God takes care of His children, I was thinking about divorce and after reading Clinging's sitch lately thought about financially what would happen with us. Everything is split based on its value. This summer we tried to refinance our house, but couldn't because the house was only valued in the low 80s while we paid 102 4 years ago and still owe 98. What is interesting is if this goes to divorce and everything is split 50/50. The house was appraised for way less than what it is probably worth due to the economy so I would come out much better because I am keeping the house and it is worth less. I didn't understand this summer when I was praying for the refinance why it didn't go through. I mean I really cannot afford this house on my own, but now I understand God was just looking into the future and knowing what I needed before I got there.

I just need to keep having faith that He has my life in His hands and will not let anything bad happen because I am His child.

[Lucky11too]

Thanks for that uplifting reminder. God is in control! =)

Hope H is "feeling better". Have fun!

[ClingingToHope]

Hey Awest, good that I was a bit of an inspiration. Weird thing for me is considering the finances and what will happen if we get divorced actually gives me peace. I'll actually end up better off than I am now.

I'm having a "doubt God's plan" night. I shouldn't. If God's plan was to give me health (good although the hernia slowed me down), a satisfying career (good although motivation has been a problem) and a beautiful family (two wonderful girls who are sitting here watching TV with me) then I can't complain.

Even the timing isn't that bad. Thanks to Facebook I've reconnected with tons of friends and family. If this had gone down a year ago I wouldn't have adjusted as well.

Still, tonight is tough, TOUGH. I don't know how you handle the OW problem so well. I found out who my W may be going out with. I don't know if it's an EA, a PA or just a friend helping her readjust socially, but it's eating me up tonight.

I try to imagine that God is a rock in the middle of the ocean and I'm clinging to him. Tonight the water is rough and up to my eyes. I feel like letting go. My strength is fading. Hate is rising in me. I feel like I can't be happy until she is miserable. That's a horrible thing, but I can't stop myself.

My girls look at me and one said earlier that I looked depressed. How do I forgive and forget?