It's not our job to teach lessons to our spouses, predict life's consequences to our spouses, or punish our spouses, but to heal ourselves and protect our children. That's first. Not what the WAS does/thinks/feels b/c remember, we don't control that anyhow, AND life does all that for us...hence the focus being on our wellness and recovery and the whole GAL and detaching.
I agree. The focus has to be squarely on us and our healing and recovery.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
