Opened up a separate banking account this week. W opened hers 8 months ago but never told me until I saw a wierd statement when I got the mail one day last month. Nice. Anyway, W was immediately concerned about what money I was going to put in it and, therefore, what money she could put in her own account. She doesn't have very much in hers and I'm not planning on making any big deposits in mine.
Told her if she was going to divorce anyway, had to have my own account to separate out "my" expenses from "family" expenses (meaning basic bills, mortgage and kids needs...but NOT hers) Told her things weren't changing at the moment but needed to be prepared since she was bent on splitting up. Told her needed to make sure things were in order so that kids would not be affected financially.
Working on detaching and envisioning my life after her and setting up my own account felt good. Will need to work out finances, who will pay what, etc., but one step at a time.
Me 47 W 44 D16, D13 T 23yrs M 20yrs WAW/MLC + Male EA "BFF from H.S." = Misery
