Thanks. W cheating is in the back of my mind. I hope to be prepared if there is an OM. When she left in July, one of her complaints was we did not have sex often. She said that besides our heated arguements, not having sex is the main cause of spouses to cheat and seek affection elsewhere. I admit I did not initiate sex because I wasn't into her as much the last few years because of our problems. This is a mistake on my part because I know that W is a very emotional person and not paying any attention to her sexually was demoralizing to her and made her feel rejected. Even in the bedroom she tried to be in control and it just turned me off.
