I want my WAW back!

[TrentC]

In my first post, I stated that my W is honest. This is one thing I admire about her. I even asked her not too long ago if there was someone else. She angrily said 'You know me by now. You know I don't do those things. I honor my vows!'. I believe her, although I thought to myself that if she believed in our vows she wouldn't be doing this to us. My friends wonder if there is an OM because she goes out of town frequently for conferences. Maybe I'm naive because I'm the trusting type and unless I see otherwise, I will continue to count on her honesty because she hasn't shown me otherwise since we met.

You're not naive: you have every reason to expect that your spouse will honor your marriage vows. The trick is to not live in denial if you find proof. And finding proof is the only way you will be able to confront her about it and get an honest response.

I'm not saying that your wife is lying to you, but she has absolutely no reason to be honest with you if you ask something like that. First rule: Cheaters lie.