Is this the end of my marriage?

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I've got some other bits I want to ask advice on that have been niggling at me.

Something I did in the past posts was to constantly analyse everything. I'm not analysing this, I actually just want opinions on this and probably a 2x4 taken to my head for saying a few things I shouldn't have. I'm posting here to get this off my chest and to take the beating ...

On Friday when my W came over and I had our chat, the compassionate, understanding and forgiving guy went away for 2 hours while the guy who needed to give her both barrels (which was also the guy she left) came out and told her exactly what i thought about what was going on, her lying, deceit and the affair and told her it wouldn't last, that he had already had second thoughts (from his Facebook comments although I didn't tell her where I got it from).

I also, and this is the bit I am actually most annoyed at, told her that I would NOT take her back, I had a very narrow escape from her, I was going to date (I had already told her this) and I was moving on. I also told her if I had ONE wish it would be for her to go back to where I met her (which was 300 miles away), take the OM with her and leave me and my D to get on with our lives. I think all of this was a big mistake as it's effectively closing the door on her.

I also asked about the D and she said she'd like one quickly and would admit to adultery. I said I'd sort that out after the separation agreement (which I won't as I want to keep fighting).

She also said some things that to be honest have me thinking.

When I said I had fought for my D for 7 years, she said NO, WE had fought for my D for 7 years. She also said 'but, yeah, I never supported you in that, did I' - as I had complained about that to her once or twice in the M. (I texted her the next to day to say I understood how saying that she never supported me was hurtful and that she was my rock and I could never have gotten through it without her).

While speaking about the contact with my D I said I was being selfless and in fact was getting a whole load of hassle for doing this (I was trying to get her to realise how hard I was fighting to keep their relationship). I said but all she was doing since she left was kicking me in the teeth and I was tired of it. So she later brought that up 'but I have just been kicking yo in the teeth since I left though'. She also said she didn't want me to get hassle for trying to keep the relationship going.

What made me think is that why on EARTH would she still be harbouring the hurt or these grudges if she had truly moved on? If I had been in her shoes and I had moved on with an OW, was happy, then I wouldn't give two monkeys butts for what my W had done to me as I had 'moved on'.

Can anybody enlighten me to this and hit me hard with the 2x4 for closing the door on my W? Did I close the door? I feel I have done wrong so any advice appreciated as always.