"You know that thing with the 401K? I don't think we should do that yet. I don't think we should make any changes until we talk about this some more."
And that's of perfect example of why this crazy, counter-intuitive stuff works.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement