"Great, I like him. I'm going to keep going, but he wants to talk to you as well"
Me: "Good. Do you mean you want to keep going to him as an IC? or do you want us to go jointly as MC?"
Her: "I don't know. Do we NEED a MC at this point...?"
Me: I don't know....long pause...we have a lot of decisions to make.
Me: Speaking of decisions we need to make, we need to decide what to do about the 401K for next year. If we are getting divorced, we are going to need the cash for L's, mediators, downpayments etc, and then I am going to need the extra cash afterwards. I think we should stop the investments for next year.
Her: Yeah. That makes sense.
Me: I also think we should both start looking at apartments in the local area. We won't need one immediately, but we should know what we can get and for how much money. We each need to know that, but we need to do that for ourselves, it's not something we can do together.
Me: We should also talk to a realtor, and have them come in and talk about listing the house. We need to have it appraised, so we can estimate how much we can sell it for, etc.
her: Yeah. A lot to do.
Me: Were you happy with the mediator we talked to. Should we go back to her?
her: She seemed pretty good. We should talk to others first. She seemed a bit expensive. Do we need to go soon? I think we can wait until we are really sure.
Me: I think it is good to get started.
She looked a little sad, but a friend of hers arrived at that point, so I stopped the conversation and left.
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then
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A few minutes ago she knocked on my office door:
"You know that thing with the 401K? I don't think we should do that yet. I don't think we should make any changes until we talk about this some more."
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I AM curious to know how much rental houses or apartments in the area go for. I am thinking about placing a few calls to realtors from our home phone and asking them to call me back with information.
Last edited by Thinker; 10/28/0908:41 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
