Should I date while I detach?

[Dia]

Gucci is right. It is YOU who has to make this decision, not us.

For me, I would make it based on my core values. Many of us here have wondered what kind of person would date while married, or what kind of person would date someone who *is* married. And some of us here have been one or the other of those people and lived to tell the tale. For many, once their spouse breaks the vow of fidelity they no longer feel compelled to hold to the vow themselves.

I guess it depends where your core values are and what YOU personally define as infidelity.

On the one hand, she stepped out first. The marriage is presently broken (or broken-ish).

On the other hand, if she really hasn't gotten physical with OM, then basically what she's done is a) date, and b) get emotionally attached. If it's wrong for her, is it right for you? And if she *has* gotten physical, if it's wrong for her, is it right for you? Would you kiss or sleep with any of these 'dates'?

I say these things with no judgment implied whatsoever, regardless of how you choose. I am merely bringing up the issues for you to look at.

Cheers,

Dia