Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

Yeah, I kept wanting the emotional connection, but I guess it really is about having both to make it work. If either are lacking, it just doesn't work. Good point about how he can't give himself emotionally b/c he doesn't even have control over them himself. I just hope at some point he'll get to a breaking point where he'll finally decided to get help. Then we can get "us" moving forward.

So today, H gave me some diapers and pj's he bought for S. Yeah, I know, doesn't sounds like a big deal, but for him to make a small contribution is a step, when I have been taking care of S 100%. I know I deserve much more child support, but so far, I have been able to handle it own my own financially, and with him being a complete financial mess, I haven't pushed the issue. This is one reason I know that if we don't start making progress the next couple of months, I will need to push for legal separation/divorce (but that will definitely put the nail in the coffin for our marriage). So, just trying t go with the flow right now and continuing to DB and see what happens.

So, one last note. About 3 months after we separated, H brought up the idea of going to Hawaii for some us time. I couldn't then b/c I was still breastfeeding (plus was still too angry & resentful at that point to do much to save our marriage). Well, today, I saw a really superb deal on 3 night trip to Hawaii from So Cal. So, I decided to give it a try. I sent him an email showing him the deal & asked if he was still up for going? Not sure if that was the best idea or not (is that too much pursuing), but it would be really great to have some much needed us time. (and he was the one who brought it up originally, right). So, I guess I'll just have to see how he responds...