Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

We all think that way...however...

This is your first homework assignment...

Give up thinking or wishing that you, or anyone, can change her mind, convince her, "knock some sense into her", or in any way influence her in this.

You have a process to go through for you.

She has a process to go through for her.

The only one who can change the way she is thinking and acting is your wife herself.

Give up control. It's an illusion anyway.

(I know. I struggle with the same thing. Most of us do.)

[givingitmyall]

I just wish someone could knock some sense into her. She acts like the nine years weve been together have never happened. Gonna miss my daughters first halloween because its her time!

UGV,

Sorry you are here, but Thinker is right, this IS a great place for help.

Have you picked up a copy of Divorce Busting or Divorce Remedy yet? If not, that should be your first order of business. Your local public library might even have one.

Also, post you situation on a new thread so people where to find you. And, stick with one thread. New threads each time you have a new thought make it very difficult for people to follow what's going on with you.

[ugetvince]

I have both books. How do I post in one thread?

[TrentC]

I have both books. How do I post in one thread?

Looks like you figured it out: the thread is here so we can stop hijacking this conv.

[ugetvince]

Your right and im moving in that direction. Its been very difficult but I will continue to make myself a better person,husband and father. I know no matter what I do I cant change her thought process?

[Thinker]

Start a new thread. Give it some memorable title. For the first post, post an introduction to yourself, your marriage, your situation, etc - all the stuff that can help others give you advice. After that, as you journal, have new questions, etc, keep posting them as replies to your first post.

Add a signature to your profile, and include a link to your thread in the signature line. That way, as you post on other peoples thread, they can click back and follow yours. If you then post on other peoples threads, give advice, ask questions, etc, you will attract people back to your own thread.

[Thinker]

W just came back from C session. Very little comment, but said that C now want's to meet with me individually tomorrow.

Called C to make appt. He said that from talking to my w, he now had a good idea about what was going on, but wanted to talk to me as well, and that after that we could decide how we wanted to proceed.

Not sure what any of this means. I'll meet with him tomorrow and see.

Open mind...

Open mind...

Open mind...

[givingitmyall]

W just came back from C session. Very little comment, but said that C now want's to meet with me individually tomorrow.

Called C to make appt. He said that from talking to my w, he now had a good idea about what was going on, but wanted to talk to me as well, and that after that we could decide how we wanted to proceed.

Not sure what any of this means. I'll meet with him tomorrow and see.

Open mind...

Open mind...

Open mind...

Hey, I am keeping you in my thoughts. Hang in there.

[Dia]

OPEN MIND!

You can, and you will, tell your side of the story as honestly and completely as you can.

That's all you have to worry about.

Do NOT stress over anything your W *might* have said. YOU are all you can control.

[Thinker]

I have an appt with my original C tonight, and then am taking some personal time - some quiet time by myself, followed by a guys night out.