Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

[TrentC]

That post offered a good yet very humbling and painful view into the perspective of the WAS. I feel like I have been a terrible husband to not have noticed her reaching out to me when she did.

So the next time you're talking about the R with your wife and she says "I tried to talk to you and you just wouldn't listen", what do you say?

Me, I'd go with something like "You're right, I was too wrapped up in my own issues."

A little validation of their feelings will go a long way towards changing their attitude.