Me neither. I could not imagine going back to that loveless, lifeless marriage. I know I have made a change in me, but without his commitment to make our marriage work, the resentment will start to come back and we'll be back in the same place we are today. I know I can be & now have the tools to be a much better wife, but unless he in turn wants to be a better husband, it just won't work.
It's amazing how an experience like this can really make you re-evaluate yourself. I can now see all the things I did wrong (I also have a long list) and the things I could improve on in the relationship with H. It's so important b/c I think it will allow me to be a better W (hopefully to H).
Yes, that drives me crazy. I feel like shouting half the time, 'just admit you are wrong, so I can forgive you, and we can move on!" I think it's stubborness, self-esteem issues, and even a power struggle issue. It seems like to them, coming back after making their decision gives up all their power in the relationship. Not sure how they can get past this, but they need to!
I can still imagine reconciliation senarios, but unfortuantely, I know the only way this will happen & for us to move forward is to just put the past behind us and look to the future, b/c there is no way he is ever going to admit he was wrong. (but that scares me, b/c if you don't admit it was wrong, how do I know you won't do it again).
But going back, it does make DBing a little more difficult b/c it kind of relies on u changing u and then your spouse responding, but when they're too stubborn to change b/c of above issues(even if they know they should), it's just down-right frustrating. I wonder how you get them past that point...
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
