Sure, I agree. I am simply stating that for ME and ME only I did not feel like I was emotionally ready to date (plus I had some major health problems I was dealing with).
Different things work for different people and situations. All we can do is evaluate what works and keep on that path and remove what does not work. But at the end of the day before anything good can happen with a WAS spouse doing "what works" has to be for the LBS so some form of sanity can be established.
I simply offered as a gentle suggestion that dating is not a way to detach or heal. I personally could not do both at the same time and maybe somebody else could. Its all so personal so its hard to give a definitive answer on what is best, ya know?
