My W noticed that I was moving on about 3 weeks ago. It seemed like the first thing that really grabbed her attention.

I don't call her anymore unless it's regarding S. I make plans to do lots w/o her, but I am curtious about it. I am out of the house a lot more. Finally W asked what I was up to. I told her that I was preparing myself for life without her. I was honest and said that I needed to develop a new life for myself.

It seemed to really hit her. It was a kind of turning point for me too. I wouldn't have just come out and told her that, but she asked. It was clear that I was moving on and I wanted her to know why.

I was (am) trying to live option 1. I think that you will just know when it's time for option 2. If you aren't sure that it's time for it, than it's probably not.

Me: 35
W: 31
S:9
M: 10 years
Together 13
MySitch - Ups & Downs
She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.