I agree w/you on the GF front that it is good to know where she stands w/us. I am going to step it back to the phase where we were 1st dating and I too think she'll come around shortly.
Our mistake is we got too exclusive too soon. I won't make that mistake again, b/c I won't be discussing R talk, but instead working on gaining attraction, leading, showing confidence and independence in a R.
From there, I'll let things go where they may.
Concerning XW, how great would it have been to be able to send your version of the letter. I love the idea! However, it was a good thing for me to process things and, believe it or not, I did get her to agree on a few points! Amazing, I know, but she did cave on a few points.
Overall, my side was verbalized and she's never going to change. The good thing is the purpose of the exercise was never to get her to change, so I'm not disappointed.
