The posts that you and Karen made are so RIGHT ON!! My H had a mentally abusive up bringing by both of his parents and that has spilled over to our relationship, but I the same lies here with me, that I have somewhat changed his personality in a good way, but as you know his bad side comes out often. Too often.
I have knowone to blame though. I knew he had some issues when I met him, so that is my own fault. I was young and was really attracted to him and the rest is history. It amazes me though how different a person I am today then I was when I met him. I was only 17, he was 24. Things have changed drastically.
I don't believe anymore that people should get married that young. I know for me, I didn't know what the heck I really wanted until I was in my late twenty's. Can't do much about it now.
As far as her hanging out in bars etc.. that is just inappropriate. Once in awhile to go out with friends are something is one thing, but on a regular basis is not responsible when you have small children at home that need your attention. Just my .02
I'll talk to you later...
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
