But there are other things to work on - that, given the number of people who have decided that I'm "not worth it," maybe there is truth in that and things to look at and improve on.
Donna, I haven't posted here much, I hope you don't mind, but i wonder if it's that, or maybe it could just be more about those people; the kind of people that would tell a person they're not worth it; I mean maybe some of it is those people are flawed? If you're family not much you can do, other than try to avoid them as much as you can, but if friends, maybe work on having more healthy, caring, supportive friends?
I think it's hard to figure out how you decide to move on. I think some might be time; some of us take longer than others. I think sometimes it's not good to move on too quickly; I see some people get over their WAS in a month or less here and I wonder if that's even possible.
I have taken off the rose-colored glasses and see my X more clearly, see his flaws, and realize it would be hard if not impossible to have a healthy R with him.
I think one of the main things that helped me detach and move on was working on my self-confidence & self-esteem. The better I feel about myself, the more it helps me detach. Not sure why that is though.
