is she wanting you "to be there for her" in her illness or is she requesting you respect her space and leave her alone?
Tough thing to answer Steve. Last night when I was being calm and we spoke she opened up to me about how bad she feels. She said "I feel like I am dying". It may all be stress related - or at least she feels it may be. Getting out of this toxic envioronment will help her feel better. Again, at least she thinks so.
She really just wants me to give her space and respect her boundaries. I forced her into leaving by not respecting her requests for that. If I had kept my hands off her, she would feel safe and would likely not feel the need to be away from me.
So..I suppose she would like me to be there for her, but at the same time let her feel safe and comfortable. The bottom line is that I didn't db properly when this started again 2 months ago. I am still doing some things against the db philosophy (the money thing), but at least now, they are with good intentions and not because I am putting my needs ahead of hers.
She wants me to care for her as a person and not expect things in return. I think I can do that.
