Is this the end of my marriage?

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Heh Facebook. Its hard. My WAS is still "friends with 51 common friends" but not me. I started to use it to show GAL and 180. As soon as she saw this. De-friended.

I strongly believe that Facebook, Bebo, text and IM will slowly destroy society ... :-) I work in IT (have for 18 yeasr now) and I STILL don't get social networking sites like Facebook.

My W has apparently taken her OM off as a friend ... this was the big news ... ahem.

I hope you sleep tonight. I cannot make it past the 4AM.

I feel for you. I know exactly where you are at. It used to be 4am-5am for me. The biggest worry for me though since the start of the week is actually being afraid to go to sleep. Yes, I'm afraid to go to sleep. Last night wasn't too bad though.

My IC suggested to me going to bed early and doing SOMETHING before going to bed. My problem was that as I was trying to drif off to sleep I would rehearse in my head the story of what happened and what I was going to say. The W was the last thing on my mind before I fell asleep so of course I had bad dreams.

My way of getting around this now is to read. Read anything. This usually makes me fall asleep anyway.

So, IC suggestion was go to bed early and read (or something else). Fall asleep. Wake up whenever you do (lets' say 2am) and you have 3-4 hours sleep. Get up and do something, read or whatever, fall asleep again say at 4am and get up at 7am. Then you have had 7 hours sleep in total. It might work for you.

What is the NMMNG forum?

No More Mr Nice Guy - you can find it at http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com - I have just joined the online course and it is helping me already. The book is great.

You have made a good boundry. I hope you enforce it.

I am committed to enforcing it just now. I feel very strong at the moment. I am not sure how long it will last if I'm honest but I am committed to keeping it there. It really is like a switch has been flipped in the brain - maybe it's a protection mechanism - knowing all I can about the W and OM was destroying me, I'm now trying to give up on that and the relationship as a way of protecting myself.