For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[LuLu]

Who are you?? Looks like someone is detaching! I am so happy that you had a wonderful time. You deserved a break.

Gosh, Court. I don't have any of those answers. Definitely keep doing the 180's and GAL'ing because those are working for you. As far as the next step, well, are you ready to file? That would be the ultimate step. I can't remember if you read DR or not but have you set small goals and/or journaling? This is the only way to know if you are making progress. It's a slow process. The other thing would be to set boundaries for H.

I agree with you, you do deserve better. It's hard to decide whether it's more important for your dd to not have her parents divorced or for you to find your happiness. Tough choice. I struggle with that often and suspect will still do for quite some time.