This question is for Serenity AND me - I'm getting an urge to start swinging at two wonderful women
Serenity - the last couple of posts you made on your thread here have been answered by yourself (refer #1862467 - 10/26/09 09:54 PM).
I have a feeling that the only problem you have is that you're losing you "faith" in yourself and your aims. The advice you've taken on-board is all so very valid - that same advice that was given to me by your good self and so many others. Advice which WORKED.
I know situations are different in "peripheral" details - jobs, homes etc. but the basic, the BASIC thing here is to concentrate on ONE thing - and what would that be??? Answers on the back of a postcard please
The rest will take care of themselves because you'll be the correct frame of mind to deal with the rest of the "poop".
Here endeth todays pummeling
BTW - hope you don't mind me hijacking your thread to fill you in on the up's (and downs) of my situation
Are we sitting comfortably? Then I'll begin the condensed version
The W and I are still back together. Everyone and I mean (EVERYONE except the "friend") is happy to see this.
W found a good job with LOADS of responsibility which she loves. She's just received her first full paycheck and is feeling wanted and appreciated not only in our home but outside as well. She feels her worth. Things changed for the better - out of the blue!
I'm doing very well in sticking to the changes I've made in my life but I see problems in my W. It's damn difficult dealing with situations that re-occur that I know are "dangerous". It's like trying to steer a car that's pulling to the left all the time. Patience and lots of it are STILL required.
The W asked a question last night - "Can you see J being let back into our lives" and my answer "No. After this third time that our "friend" has been involved to ever greater extents the answer is a categoric no." W's reaction? Smiles. She KNOWS (because I told her - no mind reading required) that I'll do whatever is required to keep our future safe from all enemies foreign and domestic (you know the drill).
Friend is still trying to pull W's strings (and her fathers) but it's working less and less because I'm there for her. She discuss's things and with the lessons I've learned here, she's dead in the water
Serenity - stick with it - you've proved that you can take the hits over and over again. More than any person should rightfully take and come out stronger and more determined. Stay on course. I'm going to be your back-seat driver.
