really good question. My husband and I really did have a house hit by a hurricane and largely destroyed. Having the example of what we did in the case of the real destruction made the analogy much stronger for us. And we both said the same thing, "First you have to tear out and haul away the debris." It's a point that they overlook in the analogy. But I think you are having that problem. You can't rebuild because there is debris of the old relationship all around. Give your team people a call. Tell them what is going on. Get their advice before continuing. this isn't easy. Don't expect it to be.
