Am I at this stage?

[TrentC]

Sooooooo....I didn't text him back. He text me while he was at work. He worked till 7, and text me at 6. Then at 7:30 he called. I was in the shower and my sis was here and she answered it. So when I got out of the shower she told me he called and to call him back. He mentioned he was working out. So then I text him rather than calling and just told him to call me when he is done working out and that I would only be home till 8:45. So at 8:15, he calls. I had no way out of it so I answered.

No worries; sometimes it can't be helped.

On friday in our whole "awesome" day, he asked me if I would be going to this work banquet thing of his that is in a couple of weeks. I told him definitely not. Its "his"work banquet, why would I go? He told me he really wanted me to and that I always have so much fun there that he really thinks I should go and it doesn't matter what happened to us, I shouldn't have to miss it. I have been going every year since he started working there. I told him I would think about it. So then tonight in our conversation he asked me if I thought anymore about it. I told him not really, we'll see what happens. Hmmmm...plus sign? Negative sign???? He seems like he really wants me to go even though everybody at work knows that he's staying at his sis's and he doesn't really seem to care that it would be weird for me to go!

That would be up to you, then. If you really would enjoy yourself for your sake, and not for putting up appearances, I don't see why not. (Others here may disagree.)

But heh...He then went on to say how he won't see the kids much this weekend, cause he has hockey except for saturday cause we will be with the kids all day and take them trick or treating in the evening. I don't know if he thinks that we will be spending the whole day and night together or what? I was invited to a Halloween party that night. Debating whether I should tell him that maybe we could end trick or treating early so I can go to this party?

Look at it this way: one friend invites you to a Halloween party, then later another friend invites you to go trick-or-treating. Which do you do?

But then I'm scared to throw away the possibility that he does want to spend the night with me.

Hmmm... this sounds like a good opportunity to detach, then. Tell him you can't go trick-or-treating (or have to leave early) and see how he reacts.