New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Journaling.

Had a great phone linkup with the kids tonight. My calling plan is in full swing and I just started week 2. I called first in the evening but picked up the voicemail. I called an hour later and the boys were there. My W is pretty good now at making sure the boys don't miss my phone call. That's nice. My W even asked my S12 to ask me how to spell "armoire", which he did as he repeated the spelling to my W as he spoke to me. Nothing at all to read into, but I like the fact she asked my S12 to ask me.

Tonight, I called an old friend who knows my situation. He is also a counselor. He disagrees with the DBing technique to NOT pressure the W about the R. He feels the R should be addressed especially after 16 months of separation. This other friend also disagreed with the DBing way of not bringing up the R into the conversation. I explained to them what DBing was about. They didn't understand why I didn't confront my W about the R.

I still believe DBing is the right approach at this time. My 2 friends told me they couldn't take 16 months of separation. I believe having patience through all this is a sign of strenght and willpower. I think it was either you Carlos, or Veronica, or Michelle who mentioned that in one post. DBing is the ultimate test of willpower. I'd like to say I have the patience and willpower to do what it takes to be whole again.

JR