Should I date while I detach?

[Dia]

FWIW, my take is that for where you are in your sitch - which looks to be very early in the whole bomb/affair cycle - you shouldn't do it.

1) Your W will use it against you. "See, HE's the one having an affair!"

2) You're in no emotional shape for a new R. Not fair to you, not fair to the new woman.

3) Dating at this juncture - in my opinion - will nuke your chances for reconciliation.

4) And maybe this is just me - but if you asked me out (assuming I was single) and nobody has filed, she's either still living there or only left a few days ago, I'd think you were a slimy player

Now then, there's no reason not to put your goods in the shop window, so to speak. So spiff up, dress well, be immaculate in your grooming, be mysteriously unavailable on random evenings and weekends. But GAL, don't date.