Antlers, been re-reading the whole detachment thread and I was wondering:
Originally Posted By: antlers
"I love you wife. In spite of everything that's happened and is happening, I love you. And you can't take that away from me. You can take the marriage--but you can't take what I feel for you." I felt like I needed to say that under the circumstances, wrong or not, so I did.
1) If this got any response. 2) If you still would've sent it, knowing now all that's transpired since? 3) Do you still feel this way?
Nope, didn't get any specific response at all.
Yep, I still would have sent it. I did it for me.
Yep, I still feel this way.
BTW, I know that my recovering from this is up to me. It's gonna require removing the focus from her and the marriage and placing it squarely on my personal healing. I do believe that the most powerful form of healing comes from within us, and that's good news. I believe can we draw on our great inner resources by reintegrating our deepest values into our everyday sense of self. This will make us feel more valuable, confident, and powerful...regardless of what our spouses do. I believe it.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
