PLEASE HELP! - About to completely LOSE IT!!!

[aflowergurlie]

R2C - Thanks for the reminder to keep my response texts (if I do respond) fresh and not so plain-jane-vanilla. Mental noted for future use.

No, I have not always been nice. I have always had the downfall of being a very nice person to pretty much everyone else except for him. He was the person I took out my anger and frustration on and was often witchy, demanding, and controlling with. Mostly because of my pent up hurt, disappointment, fear, and mistrust of him. So, me being nice to him throughout all the crap with the OW since starting to DB has been more like a 360 in his eyes I imagine. I know it's why he even said to me about a month ago "The night I asked you about having other people over (meaning OW), when we got home I figured you'd be all pissed off at me, but you weren't and even came and sat out on the couch and watched tv with me." I knew things were clicking in his brain then with my changes, that he's definitely noticing.

Kimmie / Trent C / Gardner - Yah, the kitty pics were getting annoying and definitely "high schoolish". That's why over the weekend when I got 2 on Saturday and 1 on Sunday, I didn't reply to any of them.

The only background info I can give on why he was doing this and why it was so frequent and repetitive, is that one, H is not a real sensitive and/or mushy type of guy. However, I think that he has been masking and supressing a lot of his "real and true" feelings through everything. He is not good at doing that for an extended period of time, and in past experience when everything does catch up with him, the floodgates usually open. And I have been catching vibes recently that his walls have cracks and might start crumbling.

Second, we had 2 cats that we raised from a couple days old and had them for 14 years together. Having no children, they were our babies and H has always had a super soft spot for them. It was an emotional bond between us and I think that this new kitten has brought back some of those old feelings into his heart of when we had our cats and that I could be the only person to understand his feelings of sentiment to this new kitten.

Just my best guesses on the sitch, coupled with, and like TrentC said, it might be the only reason or excuse that he has something of a "general nature" to reach out and have contact with me on.