Hi Silly...welcome back. Not sure about subscribing to the boards. I guess I don't really know what that means? I just come back and check the board (on my favorites list) once in a while to see what posts are new.
Since you were last here, I got married (August 09) and am very happy! I was happy to hear of your marriage improvements, and OF COURSE I was delighted to hear about the dance classes.
It is really difficult for a woman when learning to dance to not "anticipate", which is what they call it when you are the follow and you begin to anticipate your lead's next move and you go in that direction, only to realize he wasn't going to do that move after all. You really must wait for the follow and for the direction, or the entire dynamic is messed up. However, this is much more difficult than it sounds, because following itself is difficult (but not moreso than leading). Its just hard because you are having to think and concentrate so hard on your steps and the music and then ALSO concentrate on NOT anticipating. Of course, after you both become more proficient, she likely will stop anticipating as this is usually something beginning follows only do for about a 6 - 12 month period when they first start taking lessons. Yes...anticipating can reflect that a woman is a little too controlling or that she has a hard time giving up control, but at the same time, if you haven't tried to follow, you really should sometime, so you can see how difficult it actually is to NOT anticipate.
I guess I have not been contributing that much around here lately as many of our regulars have moved on, and I myself haven't felt like pouring out my heart in words about my own sitch. I think in general, the Baggy's and the Cinco's are both in recovery, so that is good news, and they both pop back in here from time to time.
