Newbie (again)

[WalkingMan]

I think the key here is to at least try and move on and quit worrying about all this. Its all about you now. Dday, like you, I'm a good looking guy. But the difference now is that I'm confident and happy. Yes, I had to make many painful changes in my life and I still feel my XW took many important things from me. But I have a new life now and it feels great!

There may be a little of your old XW in there somewhere, but maybe the woman she is now is the real XW. She's the OM problem now and it looks like to me that her infedelity with you is contributing to his insecurity. Probably, she will leave him and will be forced to look at the woman in the morror. Perhaps she will be able to finally work out her issues.

I know my XW is now alone now and hiding from her 'judgemental' family. The OM is no longer in the picture and she looks at my new life with envy. I have no doubt that at some point, she will approach me again. But this is of no consequence because this is my life and I live for my happiness. I refuse to sit around and wait for something that may not be good for me.