E-mail is slightly better b/c I can just delete it and try to pretend I never got it. X just called me (how many times have I told him not to call???) and said something about S15 and church today (like said it in 1 second). I said What??? He hung up.
Was going to email what did you say, but noticed he had just emailed 15 minutes ago that he has S15 and will be taking him to the volunteer stuff he does tonight (5 to 6) so I don't need to pick him up today. Now, I don't get that; S15 is somewhere with X(where?) and X is taking off work again, when he could just pick him up at 6:00 after the volunteer stuff. Just don't understand him at all, maybe his L said he should be doing some of the taking them to activities on Tuesday so he can get custody that night. I'm sure it benefits him in some way...
Unacceptable. So he is not at school and you don't know why? Unacceptable. You need an emergency hearing for a schedule. I know you said that would take awhile, but lawyers can work wonders when they really need to. At least get it in writing and in the books that you needed to call an emergency hearing...doing nothing will not show there has been big problems with this...and there has!!!!
Your L needs to get off her arse and file an emergency order now, this is ridiculous and key word where the kids are concerned in a divorce: distruptive.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I agree. If you need to light a fire under your old attorney's rear do it. He is changing things and trying to make this all look better for him because he can. The reality is that he shouldn't be able to, but as whatdid pointed out, there hasn't been any hearing scheduled.
Sure you could say it is only a month away, but in the mean time he continues to do this stuff. He could make a number of changes between now and then. Nip it in the bud. I can't see how an emergency hearing would take a month or two to be scheduled. It is an emergency for a reason.
Demand that she get one on the books.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Calm down, calm down. S15's still only going half a day (I need to check on that b/c they need to add at least another class I think and lunch in). He takes a virtual school class at (my) home also.
So he just picked S15 up after school. And he did take him to volunteer work today. He picked up D9 after the afterschool program today although I did take her.
I did email him (twice) to follow D9's teacher's idea and leave D9's homework in her purple folder they send home each Monday so I could see it after him. It wasn't in her backpack today as I asked him to do. I told D9's math/science teacher and she said she told D9's homeroom teacher she should give me the folder, and she trusts me more than him (which I thought was sweet of her but I wonder why she feels that way though). I think the teachers do realize I'm very involved between being a homeschooler formerly and I pick her up 4 times a week in the afternoons also.
He copied the info and stuck it in my car tonight when I was at the church today. My guess would be he did that b/c of his control freak thing (he's like the gatekeeper to D9's school info?) but I don't know for sure. I also wonder if all her stuff was in there; it was just A & B papers. None of her grades (math or language arts) were in there. I believe they go home every Monday and he doesn't realize D9's teacher had given me her math grades last week, and she has 48 in her math score at the 9 week point and 53 in her homeworks.
He never notified me about that or gave me that which give me a break, he should have jumped on that with me and gotten involved with the teacher I think. I am going to check on that tomorrow and see if he only gave me part of the stuff, and if so I will copy the L on that info as I think not only is he not notifying me about stuff he should, but purposely maybe keeping info from me. He is kind of either got some kind of personality disorder or something. I mentioned once before do you think I should look into seeing him get psychologically evaluated do you think? I would probably have to pay for it or maybe my L would have suggested it, and I don't have the money! But I can't see how he could pass that with the anger and control issues he has & who knows what else. But I don't know how they work, maybe he could somehow cover it up or something; he is super smart.
D9 told me X did take her to the art workshop this weekend, but I sent him the info and it was a family art workshop, parents were supposed to do it with their child. She said he asked her if she wanted him to go with her, and she said he didn't have to, and he just dropped her off and didn't go with her. She said the art teacher helped her though. I don't know if he is really that apathetic or maybe he was afraid to go b/c half of the class is friends of mine. He won't come in at the church either, sends D9 in.
Thats great that hes afraid to show his face around your base of support! Wow, maybe you shouldnt do things that make you too ashamed to speak to your W's friends!
Usually psychological evaluations have built-in faker proof things. They are very carefully crafted to see right through you. If you think that its a valid concern, which it might be because of the anger issues that you have talked about, I would say go for it. But dont do it just because it would be sort of a funny pain in his a$$- which I think it would be, heck, maybe thats exactly why you should do it!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Still considering the psych eval. I've got some divorce, legal type books I'm only halfway through-I have no attention span when it comes to them but I'm determined to slog through some this week. The nolo book Lodo recommended is really good--will do it! Hopefully, they have something about what to do re: crazy or nearly crazy exes....
I had so much fun this week--hope everyone had a happy Halloween!
D9 was batgirl. We went to a downtown carnival thing they had, very nice, and had dinner with some friends and their d7, and then went trick/treating. Very fun. I realized this year, when I was out yesterday; I really did know about half the people there. I mean I know a lot of the people from my town that have kids. I really like living in a small town. We had a founder's day type thing today, food, games, etc. so that was fun too.
My rent was due today, and since it was Sunday, X decided not to mail it as he did last time, but give it to me tonight when I dropped off the kids. I made the mistake of emailing him asking him to mail it (takes one day) so I could put it in the bank Saturday and pay my rent on time. He of course enjoyed not doing that and giving it to me tonight. He's such a (insert appropriate cuss word here). Plus, the kids take 5 minutes to get their stuff out of my car and into his, and he just stands there. I was pulling out of the parking lot, refusing to beg him for it or whatever, and was just planning on emailing the L tomorrow if he was not going to give it to me even tonight. So he finally gets D9 to stop me, and had her give me the check. I just think he gets some kind of thrill over that kind of stuff.
The good news is that I'm def. going to request at the D hearing to have it electronic deposited into my account so I no longer have to deal with that hopefully.
He should have his wages garnished so then you won't have to get anything from him it will come from the State. That is how they make sure you are getting the money you are supposed to.
I am glad you had a good time. We decorated out house yesterday since the weather was finally nice. Ex took the kids to his parents for about 2 hours and then they went to a few houses here. I had no trick or treaters by the time they got home. Finally ended up with 19 for the night. D10 loved handing out the candy and was so excited to see all the cute costumes. I kind of get the feeling this will be her last year.
Your creepy H loves to torment you and push your buttons. Get as much in writing at the time of the D so you won't have to deal with him that much later.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
