hey "e", we don't have a custody agreement yet. I get to have him over the weekends, which I really enjoy. I just wish I could see him more, but they are now over an hour away and I work 1.5 hours away from my house, in the opposite direction.
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
W almost asked me to help her move last night. She was saying how she has people to help on Sat morning but only 1 is a guy (her sister's boyfriend) and she needs 2 guys for the heavy stuff. I think she was waiting for me to offer to help. I said nothing.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
W almost asked me to help her move last night. She was saying how she has people to help on Sat morning but only 1 is a guy (her sister's boyfriend) and she needs 2 guys for the heavy stuff. I think she was waiting for me to offer to help. I said nothing.
Hey, I took a few classes in Venusian. Where's the "almost" in that??
If you think that's an "almost," then you must think "Honey, it's really warm in here" means something OTHER than "Dear, please get yo' lazy ass up out of bed and make it cooler in here. Thank you!"
The things you said about your W moving, the appartment, etc., is another glimpse of her distorted "world". The more reality she gets hit with....the better. Remember.....no helping her when she "needs" something around her place fixed. Right now you feel determined but look to be caught when you are feeling low and trying to give a good excuse to do what she asks. The male friends I know wouldn't mind helping move but they would not want to be available for all those other jobs that will be popping up. Have your little pat answers memorized and ready to load & shoot.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
LOL. I would help but something about helping my W leave me just doesn't sit well.
Nothing wrong with that at all.
If she asks you to help her move, point out that it's her choice to leave so she can work out the details herself.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Minor "victory" today as W said she'll keep me on her medical insurance. (They're having open enrollment right now.) Her employer's coverage is better than mine...and cheaper. If she dropped me, I'd have to pick up my own coverage & it would cost me around $120/mo. Of course, I'll have to pick up my own when/if we get D...but I might as well put it off as long as possible. Better to have the $$ deducted from her paycheck than mine.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
E, what is your favorite thing to do? This picture of you either doing it or getting ready to go do it--as she is trying to get her stuff out, just kind of amusing. Okay, I'll behave.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
E, what is your favorite thing to do? This picture of you either doing it or getting ready to go do it--as she is trying to get her stuff out, just kind of amusing. Okay, I'll behave.
So I should sit on the recliner playing my Playstation & listening to really loud music while she's moving her stuff? I like it.
Seriously, it's Thursday & I'm getting a little bummed thinking about the reality of living alone & being a 39 year old single guy. Maybe it's because I haven't taken my "happy pill" yet today but that's what's running through my mind. I know...GAL!!!
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
