Indy I would work on forgiving that mistake. Forgive your self and learn from it. Remember forgiveness means taking responsibiltiy for your actions. And work to never allow it to happen again. Which would mean no more doing that stuff so you cannot get into a postition that it can happen. This would be an action. Actions speak louder than words. This would be a good 180. Clean up your system. And stay away from anything that hinders your judgement. Perhaps one day your wife will forgive you as well. Just not now. And by letting her go this way you may never get the chance at forgiveness. It cannot be bought. It must be earned. And to earn forgiveness requires hard work. Hard work by both of you. But only you can forgive yourself for your past actions. One day you may need to communicate this to your wife. It may be the openning for her to forgive you as well. It is called healing. Lead by example.
So it is not moot now. As it is defining your re-actions. Take ownership and have it become an action.
