Trent - You got THAT right, it IS their way of helping themselves feel better about their actions. My WAW wants to be friends and be able to hang out with each other sometimes, etc., and be happy for each other's new lives, etc. But that poem/song says it all, with a big fat "why would I want to put myself through THAT?"
Guess I haven't detached enough yet....by a long shot.
Me 47 W 44 D16, D13 T 23yrs M 20yrs WAW/MLC + Male EA "BFF from H.S." = Misery