No I didnt. I would have lunch ready and say "there is enough for you if you want". He declined a couple of times, I was "happy" anyway and wished him a good day. I actually gave him a doggy bag a few times, and then once...he accepted. We talked about "nothings", with the kids, and then after that, he would linger for an invitation. Pretty soon, it became a routine he would stay with us for lunch. "For the kids". Sometimes I would be gone and arrange for the babysitter to be there, with no warning.
Aknowledge the day with an SMS and have the kids prepare a card or something. Light and easy. As far as Thanksgiving, maybe just say he is welcome if he wants and leave it at that. Not ask again if he decided if he is coming and DEFINTELY dont react hurt if he says he has other plans. Wish him fun. K
