what do you specifically do that makes you not a good listener and selfish? (ignore her? do the opposite she asks? start arguments?)
around your anniversary you had a couple arguments. it seemed from your text that maybe you were sending her mixed signals. did you feel you may have instigated the arguments or was your wife on edge and looking for any reason to storm out the door?
what does your wife do while you are at work?
if you said to your wife that you were uncomfortable about 'certain things' and would like some peace of mind regarding your marital situation and asked if you could look at the detailed online billing for her cell phone what do you think would transpire?
are there male names that pop up in conversations alot recently? like john like this song, or maybe, marty does this, or I cant stand this about Tom?