Not sure what to expect, but I can feel expectations rising nonetheless.
Open Mind - No Expectations Compassion Listen, Understand "I am not willing to continue an R with someone who is emotionally unavailable to me. I do not wish to continue with an R that is starved of physical affection."
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
Good luck. Just keep repeating the no expectations part. Very hard not to have them.
And abpout not staying in the R, I I can say the exact same things. If I didn't know any better, I would believe we are married to the same woman. And, in a lot of ways, we are. Many of us are.
T - Best of luck today with the new MC, we've been through three (two of which were divorced themselves) and have not found a truly "pro-marriage" one yet so I hope it works out for you whatever direction you choose.
GIMA is right on - the "no expectations" part is the hardest to maintain, especially when a question is asked and then answered differently than expected. Maybe not necessarily falsely but perhaps omitting relevant information. Tough to hold your tongue sometimes and give her a chance to elaborate.
Anyway, good luck!
Me 47 W 44 D16, D13 T 23yrs M 20yrs WAW/MLC + Male EA "BFF from H.S." = Misery
Well, no babysitter available, so no MC session today.
W is going alone. I think that is actually better for her. She also seemed to want it that way. I think she didn't put much effort into looking for a babysitter, and wasn't unhappy when I didn't find one either. She just said "That's OK, I'll just go alone. I think I'd like to go individually anyway."
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
I am going to be out of town on business for most of each of the next 2 weeks.
W has been asking for space - requesting that I start traveling again, etc. - so now (by chance) she get's it...
...and now she is fretting "What am I going to do about a babysitter while you are GONE next week? How am I going to meet with my clients?"
...and I'm saying nothing...just nodding my head.
Exactly.
That's too bad, she'll have to find someone who can watch the kids for her -- just as she would if you guys D and you're not available to help out.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Good morning to all that our there. My situation looks like this at this point. My wife of seven years left three weeks ago to move in with her parents. We have two children ages 1 and 3. She has been saying for quite sometime that she is miserable and not happy. We tried counseling but she only wanted to go for 6 sessions. She had left for 2 days in the month of May and after she came back i wondered if she was really trying to work on our marriage. She left one of the cribs at her parents and alot of her personal belongings. I would tell her if were going to make this marriage work we have to be fully committed to that. I feel like she hasnt been since then. There are many things that have happened this last year and its been hard on both of us. First she was pregnant for most of 2008 and had a really hard pregnancy. She said that I wasnt there for her when she was sick. I come to find out during her six and seven months into the pregnancy that she had been speaking to a M friend about 200-300 times per month? When I found out about she stopped but there been alot of insecurity on my part ever since. I lost my job of 17 years in Oct 2008. We had to file BK and lost our home to foreclosure in Aug of 2009.I think that alot of the financial problems created a huge void in our marriage. I thought we would be able to survive but she just cant handle it anymore and has stated she is "moving on with her life". She initial left via a text message stating that she was miserable and couldnt live this way anymore. We had been living at my parents until we could get back on our feet. I have tried the first week she was gone to talk to her and convince her to at least try to make things work. Her attitude got worse by the day. I have completly backed off at this point. I recieved the book bd via anoymouus family member that sent it apparently to both of us. I asked her if she recieved and if she read it and this was her reply." No i will not be reading it whoev! er sent it was out of line". Any advice from anyone. Thanks
Me 39 W 33 Married 7yrs Together 10 2 children 3 and 1 Says"She's moving on with her life"
I just wish someone could knock some sense into her. She acts like the nine years weve been together have never happened. Gonna miss my daughters first halloween because its her time!
Me 39 W 33 Married 7yrs Together 10 2 children 3 and 1 Says"She's moving on with her life"
