good analogy. Today is the worst day I had in a week, emotionally that is. So for those that have successfully detached and do not have kids, do you see your ex after D? Mine keeps telling me we will be friends...sure...
I'm not there yet, but that will depend on her. If she's the one who is walking away from me and initiating divorce, how good of a friend can she be?
"We can still be friends" is what they tell themselves to feel better about their decision. They want to hang onto you until they are secure enough in their new life to let you go. This is why detaching, GAL, and going dark are such effective DB techniques -- it gives them a preview of what their life will be like once you're not a part of it.
Originally Posted By: John Michael Montgomery
You say you want to be friends That's a newly sharpened blade That's a dagger to the heart Of the promises we made That's a chapter full of pain A season full of rain A dark and stormy night Spent all alone
Friends Get scattered by the wind Tossed upon the waves Lost for years on end Friends Slowly drift apart They give away their hearts Maybe call you Now and then But you wanna be Just friends
You say you love me very much And you'll always hold me dear Those are the sweetest words I never want to hear What's a love without desire A flame without a fire Can't warm me late at night When I need you most
Friends Get scattered by the wind Tossed upon the waves Lost for years on end Friends Slowly drift apart They give away their hearts Maybe call you Now and then But you wanna be Just friends
Friends Slowly drift apart They give away their hearts Maybe call you Now and then Darling can't you see This is killing me We could never be Just friends
--"Friends"
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
