With only 45 mins to go before I picked her up she rang. Boom. She very tearfully told me that something had come up and she couldn't go.
YES, they will do this.
Lots of choices here: "You sound sad" and wait...... "I understand, it must be hard for you"....... "I understand"..... "Perfect!"
Let her leave a message. Do not answer the phone when she calls. Gives you time to determine what response (if any) to give her.... You can listen to her TONE and determine how she is FEELING. You can compose yourself and project happiness in your response, text a response, not respond at all. YOUR CHOICE.
Test and observe. Your actions now need to be counter intuitive.
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On the way there I received a text telling me 'Tell the boys I am so sorry I couldnt' go and tell them that I love them so much'.
Who is responsible for this relationship? You or her? Let her deal with her relationships and YOU deal with yours. [/quote]
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
