You know, I just wish you would stop trying to be right. Stop trying to make her see your point of view, you don’t even know what it is. Stop trying to make something happen because as you see, it isn’t what you wanted to hear.
I realize that Limbo is the pits. I realize that you feel like you have no control over anything right now. But every conversation with her just reinforces that feeling.
It makes no sense, but AYK, STOP trying to fix your marriage.
START really really trying to fix you.
Learn about patience because you are going to need it if you are really going to let this happen the way it needs to. You have even less patience than I did (and I had none) so this will be a major challenge for you.
START with one small goal, and go from there. STOP trying to make this quick. STOP trying to do it all at once.
Listen to the people who are trying to help you because you have some great people investing a ton of time here. Because they think you might have what it takes.
Good luck.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
