Can I save my marriage?

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Citygirl, good point about "moving forward" and "moving on". That means alot. I always see detachment as moving on and its scary, but If I look at it as moving forward, it takes on a whole new meaning!

I'm sorry about your husbands A, I personally couldn't imagine what you're going through, but you seem like a very strong willed woman. I look up to you being the situation that you are in. I agree that you should NEVER be the 3rd person in your own marriage. And as long as there is a chance you may be, ditch it. You seem like a very good person, and nobody deserves that. Have you dated at all since the bomb was dropped? Its been like a year and a half, correct? Just curious. Sometimes I wonder if he is saying all these things and bringing you all these little extra gifts to also keep you in the picture. He seems like he's scared to lose you, and vows to change and says he wants to work on things, but continues to have a GF? I don't quite get that? Are you still in the "moving forward" stage, or "moving on" stage? I am definitely "jumping" at any opportunity to spend time with him, but I'm going to make it a new goal of mine, to turn him down and make myself too busy. You're right it is on "his" terms, when "he" has spare time. Guarantee the tables would be turned if I asked him to do something on "my" time. He would most likely be too busy.