Because I violated her and that caused her to leave, I feel that in some ways I should be good to her at this point. She has been an amazing wife and put up with a lot over the years. At least part of me says I should be a caring, good guy at this time.
Purely from a legal point of view, I need to keep in mind that getting lawyers deeply involved right away could cost me tons. And...I also have to be aware that if I really make her angry or hurt her more, she could destroy me. She could have me criminally charged for the night I violated her. That is a horrible reality, but I need to accept just how awful a thing I did.
But at this point, it's not just about protecting myself, it's about doing the right thing for a woman I abused and at the same time finding a way to keep my own interests in mind.
I appreciate everything you folks tell me, but if you really think about my behaviour, I put myself where I am and need to realize I am lucky that my wife is not making things much worse.
Then I'm afraid there's not much we can do to help you, Indy. You're letting your past sin -- since forgiven -- stand in the way of doing what's best for your family, and it's a HUGE MISTAKE.
