Move on--- to where? How do you get there and be a better man for it? How much control do you really have of the outcomes? How much control do you have on how you handle the situations? Work backward from your goals to where you are now. Then plan and act.
I need to take some time and reevaluate my goals I guess. The quick response is that I want a happy, satisfying relationship with W. I want my S to have both parents and a loving home to grow up with. Both of these require that I detach, but not give up.
Standing still feels like a slow death, but is it really? The hurtful and MLC behavior from W hasn't been around in a while. We're not working on fixing things though. I have grown resentful and try to fill my tank with S, friends, and family. There are just some needs that they cannot meet though.
It feels like standing still, but I can see that there has been change. Things aren't really where they were 6 months ago. Even 2 months ago. Things are different for me too. I don't think my overal goals have changed, but they seem harder to achieve now. I think that I will have a harder time getting over how she has been. How she has devalued our marriage.
Apparently I am not as sure as I thought about things. I need to just continue to get a life and hold off on the conversations for now.
How much control do I have? Only control over my own actions. I don't seem to have full control over my own feelings though.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
