Can I save my marriage?

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Wow, Citygirl you seem to be in a very good place! You are definitely a role model for detachment. I could only hope one day to be in the position you are. You are one strong woman. If my husband had shown up with pizza and asked me to eat it with him, oh dear, where I'm at right now there would have been a big fat "yes!" coming out of my mouth. I realize right now I am VERY available to him, I am jumping at every offer he makes me, but how do you get past the "fear"? The fear that if you don't take him up on his offer he will pull back and get angry in return from the rejection? I just don't want to make it seem like I don't want to eat that pizza with him. I guess scared he'll detach too then we are both detached. Then you move on? Ugh!

Trent, I know you care. I appreciate every little bit of care you have in your body. I know you're tough on me sometimes, and I appreciate it more than you know. You took my situation on from the get go and I will forever be thankful. I come on here daily to hear your advice first and foremost.