Sad To Be Back 4 Years After The Bust

[chatterbug]

I agree with the effort. if she wants it let her earn it. I would lock down that line of credit right now today. It was the first thing I did. No more debt on anything you both jointly own. Cancel or place a hold on joint credit cards. Also get a new bank account to pay the morgage and bills out of that only you control. Then you have the choices of demanding her to pay half of the bills towards the house and half the mortgage and child support as well. Those are choices that you should seek some additional advice on. I know I will not talk finances with my was while she is having an affair. I also have her paying half the mortgage and half the common bills while I am still in the house. I also told her that she had 30 days to get her own car insurance and benifits. Which I removed after 30 days. We locked our joint accounts and kept one common accout to place money into to cover bills and mortgage which I control. But she has kept up her end of the bargin so far. The stick I have to swing there is exposure to work. Which she knows. So while I heal I am going to sit in my home and decide if I want to keep it or sell it. But she is not getting any of our marriages finaces while there is another man. Plus she needs to do the leg work to set up the rsrp transfers etc... I am not putting one stich of effort into it. She wants it she works for it.