I will of course, make sure we have proper separation agreement in place - then be separated for legally required one year - then proceed with as simple divorce as possible.
so you'll be essentially paying her alimony for one additional year.
Originally Posted By: Indy36
Am I being naive in thinking that we really can make this divorce a simple one in regards to finances if I don't rock the boat?
depends on how badly she wants out. I have a SIL who walked away from a half a teacher's pension and a paid off home to live with another woman in 2 room apartment. they were in love. your wife might feel entitled to everything and find herself an excellent litigator and take you for a ride.
But immediately, You seem confused and overwhelmed with all of this right now. Why dont you take a break from thinking about all of this for a short while, see a counselor, consult an attorney, go out and try to enjoy life abit, your wife did give you a pass on getting "it" elsewhere (why dont you find out if she was bluffing, she got a pa pa pa poker face?)
and follow puppies advice, Say NO. Let her do all the work; dont bring it up nor talk about it till you get your bearing straight. as puppy said
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("I understand you want your space right now, but that's your decision, not mine. I have to look out for the family, and I don't think it's a good idea for you to run up additional family debt to finance a second residence for you. You'll have to pay for that yourself.") . . .
. . . and then see how "nice" she continues to be, and let us know.
