Keep aware of your cash flow. That will be key for the first 90 days until you get a handle on your new expenses. Check out if you get divorced during a caleder year how does that effect your filing status. Do yo need to file as a single and adjust your W2 deductions accordingly. If you withold for 5 months as married and three kids and that changes it will drastically effect your take home pay and/or cause a tax liability.
Stash some cash. i'm not saying hide 5-10k. Just keep something liquid for these fast and furious times.
As for the 401k I would stop that now and start reducing mutual debt. You are only going to split the retirement so why give her more. You can start again when things settle down.
Map out your first 90 days, rent, new furniture. Contact credit bureaus and ask them what you can do to monitor your credit and your wife's. Prepared to get Lean and mean.
Look at all your debt and ask lawyer who is rsponsible for what. Asklawyer if there can be a pre separation agreemnet in place to gaurd against wife buying mercedes or running up credit cards.
Be careful of doing anything that would appear controlling to wife. be up front and open in your conversations. She will be fearful of what the financial implications will mean and how you act towards her. I't may be a good opportunity to do a 180 here if you have taken 100% responsibility for finances.
Good luck. JJ
H:37 W:34 D11,S8,S6 Together 19 years M:10 Bomb:4/09
